Tip #1 You Don't Have To Have a Boyfriend to Be Cool
This is so important to believe, because if you feel that you must have a boyfriend to be cool, then you will either date the wrong guy in hopes of being cool, or you will feel miserable and really down on yourself because the right guy hasn't come along. This sets you up for failure from the beginning! Remind yourself often that you really don't need to have a boyfriend to be cool or to be accepted.
Tip #2 The Best Way to Get the Right Guy is to be Yourself
Girls are tired of trying to be perfect. Girls are tired of trying to be the perfect size, have the perfect hair, and the perfect clothes. What if girls were able to just be themselves? This can feel impossible at times, especially when you feel different than anyone else. Instead, focus on doing things you love to do that bring a smile on your face. Do you love soccer? Dance? Scrap booking? Playing guitar? Hanging with Friends? What ever it is, do it. You will feel happier and be happier and when it's the right time, you will find companionship in someone who also likes those things or who has respect for the things that make you, you.
Tip #3 Your safety is the most important thing
Make sure that you are in a relationship that is safe emotionally and physically. This means that your guy doesn't put you down, call you names, push, hit, or hurt you in any way. He also doesn't coerce you to have any kind of intimate contact that you are not comfortable with. Dating can feel like an incredible high at times. Sometimes there can be intense feelings of butterflies in the stomach, attraction, or just wanting to be by him. Be smart. Don't let your physical attraction and your own hormones trick you into a relationship that is not safe. If you think you or a friend are in a dangerous relationship be sure to visit the website listed below for further safety resources.
Tip #4 Don't forget about your girlfriends
When we start dating it can be very easy to forget to make time for our girlfriends too. This is so important for many reasons. For starters it gives you balance and perspective to hang out with people in addition to your boyfriend. Second, you don't know how long that guy is going to be around If you only spend time with him, your friends may feel dissed and may not want to take you back as a friend if you and your boyfriend break up.
Tip #5 Listen to Your Gut
This should be a precursor to every tip mentioned in this article. Above all else, don't ignore that little voice inside of you. You know, the one that quietly whispers, maybe he isn't the right guy. Or the one that makes excuses for his rude behavior. Make sure that both of you respect each other 100%. How do you feel when you are together? Do you ever feel disrespected, hurt, or second class? If so, it's probably time to rethink things listen to your gut, and get out of the relationship.
Tip #6 Don't let this stress you out!!!
Dating and the events leading up to it can be very stressful whether you are in pursuit of someone, being pursued, or just feel lonely for not having a guy. Wherever you are in this process, don't let this stress you out. Focus on the positive things in your life. Think about all of the things you have going for you. Try to do the things you love doing! It sounds simple, but too often we don't allow ourselves this simple pleasure.
If you follow these six tips, you will have a guy at the right time and you will be able to find all of the confidence and respect you need to listen to your heart and gut and be in the right relationship.
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